Everyone knows how it feels to be rejected. Is it from your dream college, job, a relationship, or even a friendship? It feels heart shattering, as if you receive a dagger in the chest and now you have to learn how to live with it.
It always feels personal, as if you are not good enough or need to change something about yourself to fit it. Sometimes it even feels like your world is about to cave in.
Those emotions you feel are not your reality, is it? Did it really change you, is it ever so bad as your emotions are making it up to be? Does your world ever really crush into pieces because a job said ‘no’ to you? Or when a relationship didn’t work out?
More often than not, when time goes by, you can see why the relationship ended or why the job wasn’t a great fit for you to begin with. It wasn’t you, it even wasn’t them, it just wasn’t a great match. You know and feel when something just clicks together, when something just makes sense.
For example, one time I had an interview for a job. On paper this job was the perfect fit for me, I could imagine myself working there everyday. It just felt amazing reading the description. But when I went in for the interview, the person who I was talking to felt very stressed, worked up and was not happy to be there. That is how it felt. My body went from excitement, to being confused and when he was very cold with his answers, I got a little intimidated. That was not the feeling I was hoping for, I need something in my life that gives me extra life, not extra stress. This job suddenly felt very hasty, stressed and judgemental.
So afterwards I was dismissed because I did not know enough about a certain topic, which is easy to learn about.
Even though I felt like this was not the job I was hoping it to be and felt in my body that this was not a match, it still hurt so much when I got rejected. Even though I know if I wasn’t rejected, that I had rejected the offer.
Weird isn’t it?
There are positives to it though, because of this I got to experience something new and learn about what I certainly do not want and therefore know what I do want.
I also believe that this will somehow bring you to a path where you are led to a job, relationship or friendship that does add to your life. When something belongs together, it will find each other and staying in a place because it feels familiar, but only gives you stress, is not what anybody needs.
Rejection does not have to be negative, it brings extra information in your life and it never ever is personal. We make it personal, because it definitely feels like it is, but it never is.
You are way stronger than you think you are and go after what makes you happy. Try not to fit in someone else’s box, try to fit in your own.
Love
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